Hi guys and gals. I know I have been away but...LIFE!! Wow, it's been since August! WOW! I apologize. I’m in school now and I’m learning to balance this school-writer-mom-life on top of work and play 😉.
On this journey, called grad school, I have learned so many things about myself. I want to share some survival tips/grad school wisdom to stick it out after that first semester.
1) Procrastination is NOT your friend.
I have always struggled with this. Elementary, middle school, high school and college. I used to believe that I enjoyed the “rush” of putting things in last minute. Unfortunately, you can’t do that here. Grad school requires discipline. Better early to start, than late to finish.
2) The Grass is not Greener on the other side.
I was suffering from a HUGE case of fomo! Like literally about to be in tears. I can’t hang out like I want or feel like its not enough hours in the day to get everything done. When I slowed down and reflected on the fact that this journey is growing me up in so many ways. I realized this chapter is helping me to water, trim and cut my own grass.
3) What would I be doing anyway??
While I love a good hang session, I refuse to continue doing things that will prolong my greater success. Once I made the decision to attend grad school- my bff actually asked, “What else would you be doing anyway?” Complaining. Thats what! The time will pass you by and you’ll still be stagnant which equates to your dream being stagnant. God gave us all gifts and abilities to be blessings to others-not just for yourself! Get to it! We have the world to change!
4) PRIORITIZE sleep and self-care!
We live in a society that will have us believe that sleep is for the weak! This is so far from the truth. Sleep deprivation is one of the leading causes of depression and is considered a health risk. I learned this the hard way. Looking weary and exhausted is NOT hot! You must sleep and put the books away every once in a while. This will help you with being your best self at all times! Which leads me too...
5) Self Management = Time Management
Once I started to plan my days, my work-life-family balance fell into place. I was more intentional with my time. Prioritizing tasks, helped me to present my best work in school. When you say no- you’re saying “no” to the task and not the person. People will pull and tug on you as long as you allow them too. Set boundaries and inform them that it’s not that you can’t do it-your timeline doesn’t allow for you to do it.
6) Breaks are essential!
Thank God for Netflix and chill!!! Alone! You have to step away from studying to clear your head and your heart. Self-awareness is key in post-graduated school. Meditation, journaling and coloring have helped me through writers block. Again, be your best self ~ present your best work! And, that means stepping away for some fresh air.
7) Get a cheer team!!!
Church family! Book club members! That girl that always likes your post! We all need those people who are rooting for us behind the scenes! Those people who send, “ I know you’re tied up with school but I was thinking about you! And, I’m rooting for you.” It won’t be that long but you get my drift. Grad school has been one of theeeeee most isolating experiences I’ve ever gone through. I am a huge encourager of myself and others. I’m affirmation queen. I’m literally a walking quote because of all my tattoos. But it’s nice to know that there are people beside yourself rooting for you! So squad up!!!
8) Keep your mouth shut!!
You’re progressing and excited for this new chapter in your life. But, whenever you share your excitement, goals and aspirations; you feel like you’re getting the cold shoulder from folks you thought were patting you on the back but instead they are stabbing you in it. Everyone doesn’t want to see you succeed. I’ve learned you can’t share everything with everyone! Some people-friend or foe don’t want to see you glo’ up and thats okay. Different levels require a different you and a different support team!
9) IT WILL ALL BE WORTH IT!!
To whom much is given, much is required. When you get to wear those ropes and walk across that stage ~ it will put everything into perspective! You did it! With all the different circumstances you faced! You didn’t give up on yourself and to me that is the greatest gift you can give yourself!
What are some lessons you’ve learned on this journey?
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As Always, Be the light, live in the light, Spread the light. Love ya Ciao!